
Tótem
2023 · Lila Avilés
Tótem made her the face of Mexico's intimate-realist new wave, the counter-narrative to Netflix-era Mexican prestige — cited constantly in "the future of Latin American cinema" pieces.
For when you want a film that earns your tears honestly — a slow, humane watch that leaves you wanting to call your family. Choose it when you're ready to feel something real, not when you need cheering up.
What it's about
In a big, busy Mexico City house, seven-year-old Sol is dropped off among aunts, cousins, and her grandfather as everyone prepares a birthday party for her father, Tona, a young painter who is gravely ill. Over one long day of cooking, decorating, bickering, and waiting, Sol slowly grasps what this particular celebration means — and watches the adults around her grasp it too.
The experience
Intimate and teeming — the film stays at a child's eye level amid the clatter of a full house, so grief arrives sideways, through overheard fragments and small rituals. It's tender and quietly devastating without a single melodramatic beat, and the party's warmth makes the sadness hit harder.
Performances
Young Naíma Sentíes carries the film as Sol with a watchfulness that never feels coached, and the ensemble around her plays like an actual family — overlapping, irritable, loving.
The craft
Lila Avilés confines the entire film to one house and one day, and the compression is the point: handheld camerawork threads through crowded rooms, and the sound design layers chatter, animals, and kitchen noise into something alive. The detail is so dense that the house itself becomes a character.
Why it matters
A Berlin competition premiere and Mexico's Oscar submission, it confirmed Avilés as one of the most distinctive voices in contemporary Mexican cinema.
Snapshot
Tótem is the second feature by the Mexican director Lila Avilés, a chamber drama that compresses an entire reckoning with mortality into a single day inside a single house. Seven-year-old Sol is deposited among her aunts, grandfather, cousins, and extended household as they prepare a birthday party for her father, Tona, a young painter gravely ill with cancer. The film never leaves the family home; its drama is the drama of a household bracing for a loss it cannot name aloud, and its principal instrument is a child's watchful, half-comprehending gaze. Premiering in competition at the Berlin International Film Festival in February 2023 and subsequently selected as Mexico's official submission for the Academy Award for Best International Feature Film, Tótem confirmed Avilés — who arrived with the acclaimed La camarista (The Chambermaid, 2018) — as one of the central figures in a generation of Mexican women directors working in an intimate, observational register. It is a film of overlapping voices, small animals, kitchen labor, and ritual, in which the ordinary machinery of a family party becomes a vessel for grief.
Industry & production
Tótem is an independent art-house production emerging from the Mexican auteur sector rather than from the country's commercial or Hollywood-adjacent studio infrastructure. Like much contemporary Mexican festival cinema, it was assembled through international co-production, combining Mexican financing and creative labor with partners abroad; the record commonly identifies it as a Mexican production with co-producing participation from Denmark and France, the sort of pan-European arrangement (co-production funds, sales-agent involvement, festival-facing financing) that sustains this tier of filmmaking. Beyond that broad structure I would not assert precise budget figures or a full financing breakdown, as those details are not something I can state with confidence, and I will not invent them.
Strategically, the film followed the now-standard path for prestige international cinema: a launch in a top-tier competition (Berlinale) to establish critical standing, a subsequent circuit through festivals worldwide, and boutique theatrical distribution in art-house markets. In the United States it was handled by an independent distributor specializing in world cinema. Its designation as Mexico's entry for the 96th Academy Awards placed it inside the awards-season economy of the international-feature category, where festival pedigree and national selection function as the primary marketing assets. The production is modest in scale by design — a small ensemble, a single principal location, a compressed shoot consistent with the film's intimate scope — which is itself an industrial statement: Tótem belongs to a mode of Mexican filmmaking that trades spectacle for concentration and depends on festivals and specialty distribution to reach audiences.
Technology
Technologically Tótem is unshowy, and its restraint is the point. The film was shot digitally, in a naturalistic idiom that favors available and practical light — the ambient glow of a domestic interior, kitchen and hallway lamps, daylight through windows — over elaborate cinematographic apparatus. The house itself, dense with plants, objects, family clutter, and small creatures, is the film's essential "technology": a fully dressed, lived-in environment through which the camera can move freely. The visual approach depends less on any signature format or lens system than on mobility and proximity, and on the ability of contemporary digital sensors to hold detail in the low, mixed light of real rooms. Where the film does foreground technique it is in the density of its sound design and the layering of overlapping dialogue, which requires careful production recording and mixing rather than any conspicuous post-production spectacle. This is a film whose technological choices are subordinated entirely to a naturalist aesthetic; there are no visual effects set-pieces, no formal gimmicks, and the craft is deliberately invisible.
Technique
Cinematography
The cinematography — shot by Diego Tenorio — is the film's most distinctive formal element. The camera behaves as a participant rather than an observer at a remove: it is close, mobile, and frequently anchored to Sol's height and vantage, so that the adult world is often glimpsed partially, through doorways, past shoulders, at the edges of frames. Faces are held in intimate close-up; the camera drifts through the house following the flow of bodies and tasks, catching fragments of conversations and gestures. This proximity produces a texture of eavesdropping — the sense of a child moving through rooms and absorbing more than she can process. Framing repeatedly isolates small details: insects, water, plants, hands at work. The shallow, tactile quality of the imagery and the reliance on naturalistic interior light keep the film grounded in the sensory specifics of the house, refusing the composed distance of a more classical découpage.
Editing
The editing organizes a nearly plotless day into an accumulating rhythm of preparation and waiting. Rather than a driving causal chain, the film advances through the steady piling-up of domestic activity — cooking, cleaning, arguing, decorating, a visit from a woman performing a cleansing ritual, children at play — so that tension builds by accretion toward the party and the anticipated appearance of the dying father. Cuts follow bodies and sound between rooms, sustaining the illusion of a continuous, teeming household. The pacing is patient and observational, withholding conventional dramatic beats; the emotional structure is one of mounting dread beneath ordinary bustle, released only in the final movement. I can characterize this editorial logic with confidence from the film's design, but I would not attribute the cut to a specific editor without certainty and will not guess a name.
Mise-en-scène / staging
Staging is where Tótem is richest. The single house is a crowded ecosystem — overgrown with plants, populated by animals (a bonsai the grandfather tends, a caged bird, fish, snails, ants, a scorpion), thick with the paraphernalia of family life. Avilés stages scenes with multiple simultaneous actions across the depth and breadth of rooms: someone cooks while another argues while a child plays while a phone rings. The blocking has a documentary looseness that lets the ensemble overlap and interrupt, mimicking the texture of real family gatherings. The proliferation of small living creatures is a deliberate motif — the "totem" of the title gestures toward nature's cycles, the coexistence of many small lives and deaths within one habitat. The mise-en-scène thus does thematic work: the house is a world in miniature, and mortality is folded into its ordinary abundance.
Sound
Sound is central and dense. The film builds a layered aural field of overlapping dialogue, ambient household noise, music from radios and devices, water, kitchen sounds, and the murmur of many people in close quarters. This overlapping soundscape reinforces the child's-eye experience: meaning arrives in fragments, adult conversations half-heard through walls. The film leans on diegetic sound and music rather than a heavy orchestral score, keeping the emotional register grounded and unsentimental; the absence of insistent scoring is itself expressive, refusing to instruct the audience how to feel. I am not able to confirm a specific composer or the exact extent of any original music, so I will not assert one.
Performance
The ensemble performances have a naturalistic, unforced quality, and the film's emotional authority rests on them. The child at the center — Sol, played by the young actress Naíma Sentíes — anchors the film with a performance of remarkable watchfulness, conveying incomprehension, intuition, and grief largely through observation and small reactions rather than dialogue. Around her the adult ensemble of aunts, grandfather, and relatives creates the dense, bickering, loving texture of an extended family under strain, with performances calibrated to overlap and coexist rather than to deliver set-piece monologues. The father, Tona, is present largely as an anticipated absence for much of the running time, which intensifies the weight of his eventual appearance. The casting favors faces and rhythms that read as real people in a real house.
Narrative & dramatic mode
Tótem operates in a strongly naturalist, observational dramatic mode: unity of time (roughly a single day) and place (one house), minimal plot, and a refusal of conventional exposition. Information about Tona's illness and the family's situation is not delivered in explanatory scenes but seeped in gradually through overheard talk and accumulating detail. The film's organizing tension is the gap between the celebratory surface — a birthday party — and the funereal reality beneath it, a party that is also a leave-taking. Point of view is the crucial structural device: the film is largely aligned with Sol, so the audience shares her partial understanding and her dawning comprehension of what the day means. The dramatic arc is less a sequence of events than a slow emotional descent from ordinary bustle toward the confrontation with mortality, culminating in the party itself. This is drama as immersion rather than as plot mechanics.
Genre & cycle
The film sits within the contemporary art-house family drama, and more specifically the international festival cycle of intimate, single-location or single-day domestic films built around children's perspectives and processes of grief. It has clear affinities with a lineage of child's-eye European and Latin American cinema and with the observational, ensemble family film. Its concentration on ritual — a gathering, a party, a rite of passage marked by imminent death — links it to a broader strain of films that use domestic ceremony as a container for larger emotional and existential currents. Within Mexican cinema it belongs to the current wave of intimate, women-authored dramas that turn away from the crime, border, and violence genres often associated with the national cinema abroad, toward the domestic and the interior.
Authorship & method
Tótem is thoroughly an auteur film, written and directed by Lila Avilés. Avilés came to directing from a background in performance (theater and opera) rather than through the conventional film-school-and-industry ladder, and her method reflects that: an attention to ensemble, staging, and the choreography of bodies in space, and a preference for observation over exposition. Her debut, La camarista (The Chambermaid, 2018) — which followed a hotel maid through the repetitive labor of her working days and was likewise praised for its restraint and its focus on a single environment and an ordinary woman's world — established the concerns she extends in Tótem: confined spaces, quotidian labor and ritual, marginal or overlooked perspectives, and a humane, unsentimental gaze. Both films demonstrate a signature interest in the texture of everyday life as the ground of meaning.
Her key collaborator on the images is cinematographer Diego Tenorio, whose mobile, intimate, naturally lit camerawork realizes Avilés's child's-eye immersion. On the editing, sound, and any musical contributions, I can describe the film's evident strategy — accretive cutting, dense layered sound, restraint toward score — but I am not able to confirm the specific names of the editor or composer with certainty, and I will not attribute those roles rather than risk inventing credits. The father Tona is portrayed by Mateo García Elizondo, a writer as well as performer, though here too I flag the credit rather than overstate my certainty. What is unambiguous is the coherence of authorial vision: Tótem extends the method of The Chambermaid into the register of family and mortality.
Movement / national cinema
Tótem belongs to contemporary Mexican art cinema, and specifically to a prominent wave of Mexican women filmmakers who have gained international festival visibility in the years surrounding it. It is legible alongside the work of directors such as Fernanda Valadez, Astrid Rondero, and Tatiana Huezo, among others, who have brought intimate, formally rigorous, often female- and child-centered stories to the world's major festivals. This movement stands somewhat apart from the internationally famous "New Mexican Cinema" associated with Cuarón, del Toro, and Iñárritu; where that generation moved toward large-scale and Hollywood production, this current is characterized by smaller-scale, intimate, domestically rooted filmmaking sustained by co-production and the festival economy. Avilés's dual selection by Mexico for the Oscar — with both her features — signals the national industry's institutional embrace of this authorial, art-house mode as a face of Mexican cinema abroad.
Era / period
The film is a product of the early-2020s international festival landscape, and bears the marks of that moment: an emphasis on intimacy, confinement, and domestic space; a turn toward small ensembles and single locations; and a foregrounding of grief and mortality that resonated with a period shadowed by widespread experience of illness and loss. Its release in 2023 placed it within a robust cycle of pandemic-adjacent and post-pandemic films preoccupied with dying, caregiving, and family under pressure. Technologically and industrially it reflects the maturity of digital naturalist filmmaking and the entrenched co-production model of world art cinema in this era.
Themes
The film's central theme is mortality — specifically, the way a family holds, avoids, and finally faces the death of a young father — approached not through melodrama but through the ordinary. Closely bound to this is the theme of ritual and celebration as vessels for grief: the birthday party is both festivity and farewell, and the film insists on the coexistence of joy and mourning within a single day. The child's perspective foregrounds a theme of comprehension and innocence — the process by which a young person begins to grasp death. The pervasive imagery of plants, insects, and small animals develops an ecological theme of natural cycles: life and death as continuous, ordinary features of a shared habitat, the household as an ecosystem. There are threads of the sacred and the everyday intertwined — a cleansing ritual, spiritual gestures set against domestic labor. And throughout runs a theme of family as collective body: the messy, argumentative, loving mass of relatives who together metabolize a loss.
Reception, canon & influence
Critically, Tótem was widely and warmly received. Its Berlinale competition premiere generated strong reviews praising its emotional intelligence, its naturalism, the child performance at its center, and Avilés's control of tone — the way it holds grief without sentimentality. It was frequently cited among the stronger titles of that festival year, and it accumulated recognition on the international circuit, including at Berlin, where it was noted by the festival's independent juries. (I recall it being honored by the Ecumenical/independent jury at the Berlinale but flag that specific award attribution as something to verify rather than assert with full confidence.) Its selection as Mexico's Oscar submission for the 96th Academy Awards marked the high point of its awards-season standing; whether it advanced to the category's shortlist is a detail I will not state without certainty.
Looking backward, the influences on the film are legible in its lineage: the observational domestic realism and child's-eye storytelling of art cinema broadly, and, closer to home, Avilés's own The Chambermaid and the surrounding tradition of Mexican and Latin American intimate realism. The naturalist single-day, single-house structure connects it to a long tradition of chamber family dramas built on unities of time and place.
Looking forward, Tótem's legacy is best understood as consolidating Avilés's standing as a major contemporary auteur and as strengthening the international profile of the current wave of Mexican women's filmmaking. As a relatively recent film, its longer-term influence on subsequent filmmakers is still unfolding and cannot yet be assessed with the confidence one could bring to an older work; the honest statement is that its place in the canon is being established rather than settled. What can be said firmly is that it functions as a benchmark for the intimate, mortality-facing family film of its moment, and as a work that expanded the sense of what contemporary Mexican cinema — beyond genre and beyond its most famous exports — looks like on the world stage.
Reception
No reappraisal needed — it premiered in competition at the Berlinale in 2023, won the Ecumenical Jury Prize, and by its 2024 international rollout it was one of the best-reviewed films of the year, a fixture on critics' year-end lists.
How Tótem was received, from release to now →
How to watch Tótem: what to notice on a first viewing
- Watch how low and close the camera stays to Sol. Diego Tenorio anchors the camera to seven-year-old Sol's height, so adults are often glimpsed through doorways or past shoulders, partial rather than whole. You end up sharing a child's limited vantage instead of an adult's full view of the day.
- Listen for how many conversations overlap at once. Avilés layers overlapping dialogue, ambient household noise, and music from radios so meaning arrives in fragments, the way a child overhears an adult household. The dense soundtrack puts you in the same half-informed position as Sol herself.
- Notice how many actions happen at once in one room. Avilés stages someone cooking while another argues while a child plays while a phone rings, all inside the same shot, across the depth of the house. The crowded staging makes the house feel like a living organism rather than a set of separate scenes.
- Count the small animals living inside the house. A bonsai, a caged bird, fish, snails, ants, and a scorpion all share the household with the family, each a small life running on its own clock. The menagerie keeps reminding you that many small lives and small deaths share one habitat.
- Watch Sol's face in scenes where adults talk over her. Naíma Sentíes plays Sol mostly through small reactions and careful looking, saying little while absorbing everything happening around her. Her watchfulness becomes your own instrument for reading a day the adults won't fully explain to her.
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Influences: the films it descends from and the films it influenced
- The Chambermaid (2018) — Avilés's own debut establishes her method of confining the camera to a single environment and building meaning through accretive observation of quotidian ritual rather than plot.
- Jeanne Dielman, 23 quai du Commerce, 1080 Bruxelles (1975) — Fixed, patient attention to domestic labor and repeated household ritual as the ground of meaning — the observational grammar Avilés adapts for both The Chambermaid and Tótem.
- Cries and Whispers (1972) — Renders dying inside the family house through sustained intimate close-ups of faces, holding grief within a single domestic chamber.
- Fanny and Alexander (1982) — Filters an adult family's crisis around death through a watchful child's restricted point of view.
- The Spirit of the Beehive (1973) — Child watchfulness and available-light naturalism, framing a small girl trying to read an incomprehensible adult world at her own scale.
- Still Walking (2008) — A single-day family gathering in one house organized around an absent dead relative, using meal-based deep-space staging and strict unity of time and place.
- Nobody Knows (2004) — Observes children at their own height with a naturalistic ensemble built from undirected, behavioral child performance rather than scripted line-readings.
- Ponette (1996) — Draws a sustained, unsentimental naturalistic performance from a very young child confronting death, with the camera held at the child's level.
- Prayers for the Stolen (Noche de fuego) (2021) — Fellow Mexican woman auteur constructing a child's restricted POV of adult danger through observational, available-light naturalism.
- The Amazing Catfish (2013) — A near-direct continuation — a child's-eye view of a crowded family gathering for a dying young man, built on the dense household frame, ensemble naturalism and unsentimental terminal-illness care that define Catfish.
- The Celebration (Festen) (1998) — Stages a family reunion within a single location using handheld intimacy and overlapping ensemble dialogue that builds toward rupture.
- Rachel Getting Married (2008) — Shoots a family celebration handheld and as if by a fellow guest, with densely overlapping dialogue and diegetic music in place of score.
- Roma (2018) — Renders a Mexican domestic interior through deep-space simultaneous action and ground-level attention to the choreography of household labor.
- The Florida Project (2017) — Uses a child-height camera and child watchfulness to frame adult economic precarity, keeping the crisis at the edges of the kid's field of view.
- Playground (Un monde) (2021) — Locks the camera literally at a child's eye level for the entire film, restricting the audience to exactly what the child can see and comprehend.
- Aftersun (2022) — Reconstructs a child's-eye apprehension of a parent's mortality in intimate digital naturalism, part of the same post-pandemic grief cycle.
- Petite Maman (2021) — Processes the loss of a family member at child scale with pared-down naturalism, restricted child POV, and no expository score.
- The Currents (2025) — Maps a feminine interior crisis through the confining architecture of a single house and dense ambient domestic sound, holding to performative restraint and withheld grief.
- My Father's Shadow (2025) — A near-real-time single day in which a child intuits a father's looming death she is never plainly told about — the same asymmetry-of-knowledge structure compressed into domestic time.
- Identifying Features (2020) — Sibling in the women-led Mexican movement built on performance interiority and restraint, where a threshold/waiting-space setting and quiet observation withhold the grief driving every frame.
Similar films
- Petite Maman (2021) — influence & lineage
- Nobody Knows (2004) — influence & lineage
- Coco (2017) — same viewing thread
- Guillermo del Toro's Pinocchio (2022) — same viewing thread
- The Boy and the Heron (2023) — same viewing thread
- Blue Heron (2026) — shared sensibility
- Summer 1993 (2017) — shared sensibility
- 20,000 Species of Bees (2023) — shared sensibility
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Watch it with: curated runs of related films
- Where Children Meet the Dead — Watch these together and Coco's candlelit sweetness darkens by degrees into a run of folk fables where the dead won't stay buried and children bargain with mortality under the shadow of war and fascism.