
2017 · Michael Showalter
How The Big Sick has been received, argued over, and remembered.
A Sundance 2017 sensation that became the year's feel-good indie hit and an Oscar screenplay nominee; it's since settled from 'instant classic' to a warmer, slightly more contested spot as the flagship of the late-2010s rom-com revival.
The recurring debate is over its treatment of the Pakistani women Kumail's family sets him up with — critics, especially South Asian women writers, argued they're played as punchlines while the white love interest is idealized, and that discourse still flares up whenever the film is discussed.
Kumail's deadpan 9/11 joke at the dinner table ('we lost 19 of our best guys') is the film's most-quoted moment, and 'wanna watch an X-Files?' became shorthand for a certain kind of nerd flirtation; the film itself became a touchstone for arguments that the rom-com wasn't dead.
A beloved modern rom-com standard — the 'actually good recent rom-com' people recommend to skeptics, and a staple of best-of-the-2010s comedy lists.